You may have arrived here because you are experiencing symptoms that you know are in some way connected to your menstrual cycle.  It could be that you suspect perimenopause or menopause.

It may seem strange that we are talking about all three stages here. But, it shouldn't surprise you that no matter your age the symptoms are all connected and caused by the same systems within your body.

When we say, "its not your hormones" that probably is contrary to everything you have come to believe about being a woman, but our understanding of the female reproductive system and how it can become out of step has changed  dramatically in the past few decades.

We now know that hormones can only be disrupted if there is something underlying causing them to become out of balance.

You may be experiencing symptoms that are affecting your work, family life, and relationships—symptoms so severe that you can feel as though you’ve lost touch with the real you. 

When the symptoms hit, your thinking processes, emotions, energy, how you look and feel,  pain and discomfort can all feel unpredictable - someone you don't recognise.  Your days have become about constantly managing symptoms rather than what you used to do - enjoy your normal life.

You could have found yourself thinking it's something you are doing wrong, but that is unlikely.  More probable is that what is at the root of your symptoms has never properly been identified - and until it is, things are unlikely to improve.